When LIFE teaches you that love isn’t everything in a relationship … several times … and what you thought was going to last FOREVER … didn’t make it to a year … you resort to the things that God has given you. The people you know that will ALWAYS be there … the people you could never stay mad at … hold a grudge against … the people you have unconditional love for … your FAMILY.
It’s been a good 12 years (when i graduated from high school and moved to UCLA) since I’ve really connected and spent time with my family. Not just the typical holiday or bday gatherings where we eat Cuban food, joke around and spend no more than 2 hours together and go our seperate ways. I mean real time with my cousins (like the time i spent with them as a child where they were like my siblings). This last weekend … it wasn’t just the circumstances going on in my relationship at home that got me to get back to that kid who never wanted to be parted from her cousins … but also the new presence of PRESCIOUS Presley Leis Hoy (Ha! the only other one with my middle name … our Grandpi’s last name).
I spent the weekend with my new little peanut Presely, my cousins, my tia’s AMAZING cooking, and even a little tennis (since Lynette has a court bascially in her backyard). Come Sunday evening when I had to return to my vacant home … I didn’t want to leave. Not just because I’d be facing the beginning of a new chapter in my life … but because with my family everything is just so much better. We laugh all day, give each other the best advice and we just know how to make everything fun.
Driving home from Huntington Beach that evening I decided to make my family more of a priority. I’m not sure whether it was me being gay that pulled me away or because they were always out and about in the straight scene … but what I do know is that little Presely has grounded all of us … and I’m so elated to be a part of my family again. Drama free, full of positivity … and just plain happy : )